They See a Body, I Feel a Battle — What Weight Struggles Really Feel Like

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Confident plus-size woman embracing body positivity and self-love
Every stretch mark is a proof that I’m still here 

You know that awkward moment when someone hits you with, “You’ve gained weight!” as if they’re reporting breaking news? 😅 People see the body—but they rarely understand the battle behind it.


This post is for anyone who’s ever felt the emotional weight that comes with a changing body. Spoiler alert: it’s not just about the number on the scale—it’s the invisible weight no one talks about.

The Weight I Carried Wasn’t Just on My Body

The hardest part wasn’t fitting into clothes—it was fitting into people’s expectations. The looks. The unsolicited advice. The silent pressure to shrink, tighten, tone, or disappear. I wasn’t just gaining weight, I was losing parts of myself to shame and self-doubt.

Empowered plus-size woman practicing self-care and confidence
Healing ,growing and learning to love the woman I have become 

And let’s be real, this pressure doesn’t exist in a vacuum. It spills over into how we show up, how we care for ourselves, and how we move in the world. That’s why I wrote Big Body Energy: How I Embrace My Curves and Own My Confidence — because curves deserve love too, not just criticism.

What They Don’t See Is the Real Struggle

Behind every “before and after” is:


  • The midnight emotional eating
  • The avoiding full-body mirrors
  • The fake confidence to mask real insecurity
  • The internal war between self-love and societal pressure

We live in a world that equates “losing weight” with “winning at life.” But no one claps for emotional healing, boundary-setting, or ditching toxic comparison loops.

How I Started Rebuilding My Relationship with My Body

Healing didn’t happen overnight. It started with small decisions:

  • Moving my body out of care not punishment
  • Wearing clothes that fit me now, not “when I lose weight”
  • Prioritizing skincare, rest, and joy

My post Face Clean, Mind Focused, Bag Secured breaks down how I use self-care as a way to reconnect with my body and mental health—even while building my hustle.

💬 Call to Action:

If you’ve ever felt misunderstood because of your body, I want you to know—your weight doesn’t define your worth.

📌 Bookmark this post.

💬 Share your story in the comments or DM me.

👭 Send it to someone who needs this reminder.

Because healing isn’t about changing your body—it’s about changing the story you believe about it.

Disclaimer

This post shares personal experiences and reflections. It is not a substitute for professional mental health or medical advice. For individualized support, please consult a licensed professional.

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